Accept—Coming to terms with the
past. Treatment
starts with honest acceptance and acknowledgement of the state one is in,
without exaggeration or mitigation of the truth. That means accepting one's depressed condition in all its misery. It means taking an inventory of the weaknesses, the negatives, and the limits of one's capacity to deal with these challenges. It also means taking stock of the
strengths, positives, opportunities, the capacities that are there. A person learns to accept reality as it is
experienced and evidenced in all its forms from many viewpoints.
Acceptance does not mean denying the negatives that has arisen from past events
or decisions but admitting and embracing them to remove them from focus.
Commit—Engaging the future. Treatment
proceeds through choosing a very concrete vision and achievable wants for a
different state of being including the specific steps and costs of getting
there. It is identifying what one desires in specific, a positive outcome that
can build on the strengths that have been identified and making a commitment to
go for it. This solidifies the shift of focus from the bad stuff which is
admittedly already here, to the potential good stuff that one could make
happen. It is a move from blaming and naming someone or something else for the bad stuff
happening to taking responsibility for it, that is, choosing to respond no matter what or
who can be blamed.
Take Action—Immersion in the present. Finally, treatment culminates with taking specific, sometimes very “baby,” steps to embark on the journey towards the chosen vision and positive outcome.
Take Action—Immersion in the present. Finally, treatment culminates with taking specific, sometimes very “baby,” steps to embark on the journey towards the chosen vision and positive outcome.
Yes, with a little guidance, we don't worry and we be happy.
Here is a recent example--a great one.
Marjory Stoneman Douglas
High School in Parkland, Florida,19 students were killed with an assault weapon. The surviving students, along with their parents and teachers were devastated and in a
situation of almost total helplessness.
But while the media and we on the outside considered them powerless victims, they turned their grief to anger and their anger to collective action. They
organized themselves to acknowledge the habits of a society in which they were
a part. Instead of blaming others, they took responsibility for making a change
to those institutions and their justifications. They are confronting the laws,
opposing the morality, and questioning the culture that permits and encourages
such destruction.
They are not blaming and so transferring their power
elsewhere. They are holding politicians, financiers, lobbyists, manufacturers accountable
for also taking responsibility for gun safety.
Positive Psychololgist Martin Seligman teaches the steps to a happy soul by training people in seven habits:
- Relationships
- Acts of kindness
- Exercise
- Flow
- Meaning through Engagement
- Tracking strengths or assets
- Positive Mind-set (Gratitude, Optimism)
I've witnessed the process of neighborhood and larger communities moving from negative depression to positive action, from a sense of helplessness to a celebration of power, by taking these steps. They change their own personal depression-fostering habits by engaging in changing the institutions that are fostering the despondency of the community.
How about the Great American Depression of 2017? Can we treat that?
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